Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Finding Fab

 Today I'm working from home...so I'm dressed for simplicity. Meanwhile, I'm pulling out an old post from my poor, long abandoned blog "Search For Meaning." Why? Because I can!

So what's with this whole fab thing anyway?  There is this whole tongue-in-cheek thing with people around me that I am fabulous. Now, before you stop reading as you think "this woman is an ego maniacal twit" please read on. For me, finding my "fab" is about acknowledging the things that make me who I am, all the quirks, talents and mistakes that this might embody. To take it a step further I would encourage everyone to find their "fab" and to see it in others. It's not about believing that you are better than anyone else but about recognizing how amazing we all are and celebrating it! This does not mean bidding humility farewell, humility is about accepting that none of us are perfect, we may not always get it right, and we can always grow and learn no matter how fab we may be. Humility is not being the most attractive person in the room but denying it, even though everyone knows it to be true. Humility is not playing down your accomplishments and behaving as if "it's nothing special." Being fab isn't about pride either. Being proud of oneself can be wasted energy as much as false humility.

C.S. Lewis wrote about this most eloquently in his book The Screwtape Letters, so to borrow from a fellow fab..."The great thing is to make him(man) value an opinion for some quality other than truth, thus introducing an element of dishonesty and make-believe into the heart of what otherwise threatens to become a virtue. By this method thousands of humans have been brought to think that humility means pretty women trying to believe they are ugly and clever men trying to believe they are fools. And since what they are trying to believe may in some cases, be manifest nonsense, they cannot succeed in believing it and we (devils) have the chance of keeping their minds endlessly revolving on themselves in an effort to achieve the impossible. (God) wants to bring the man to a state of mind in which he could design the best cathedral in the world, and know it to be the best, and rejoice in the fact, without being any more (or less) or otherwise glad at having done it than he would be if it had been done by another."
Silk top:Talbots (thrifted)/Shorts:Eddie Bauer (thrifted)/Cardigan:NY&Co./ Necklace:Ruche/Shoes:Journeys

You see, the thing is we can and should celebrate ourselves and each other. Whatever your spirituality, religion or faith seeing good in yourself and others just can't ever be a bad thing. If we seek out the fab in others as opposed to the bad we may find ourselves happier and making more connections with our fellow human beings! We are all more alike than different and we are all more amazing and good than we often believe. LOOK FOR THE FAB IN EVERYTHING!


Lifestyled said...

(Applause)Thank you, thank you, thank you! This is what I try to embody in all I do as a blogger and stylist. My tag line for my business is "Be you. More Fabulously." because that's what it's all about. When we embrace ourselves and our value as individuals we can begin to reach our style potential and our potential for self-confidence.

I also love "The Screwtape Letters", it offers so much insight into our nature as humans. C.S. Lewis was an absolute genius!

Faerl Marie

FAB said...

He is one of my favorites! Glad you feel the same....we have to inspire everyone to embrace their fab!

Anonymous said...

Love this post! That's a great motto to live by , I love how happy and smily you look in these pictures!

Cess O. <3 The Outfit Diaries

FAB said...

Thanks Cess!!! And my kids make me laugh...so when they do pictures (which is most days), I'm usually laughing! Thanks for stopping by!

Claire said...

you look awesome and i appreciate your confidence! i think it's so important for all of us to encourage each other as blog friends! love your outfit, the shorts with sweater and heels are so summery and cute!


Vale ♥ said...

I like your views on life, I agree with you ! You do look fab anyway ;)


FAB said...

Thank you so much Clare and Vale!

AMINTA said...

WOW !! You have an amazing smile :)


FAB said...

Awwwwww, thanks Aminta!